Commentators were quick to show their support for a married couple who lamented his wife’s lack of dates on a popular online forum.
In a viral Reddit post posted on r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/Striking_Still_3721 (otherwise referred to as the original poster, or OP) said his wife is making the couple “late for everything”, and explained recent events that caused him to leave her in the middle Shopping center.
Titled, “AITA To Ditch My Wife At The Mall Because She Was Taking Too Much?” The viral post has received nearly 8,500 votes and 1,900 comments in the past 10 hours.
Writing that he and his wife have been married for five years, the original poster explained how her chronic lateness affected his life, and even caused the couple to lose friends.
“She gets dressed, she puts on her makeup, she eats, whatever it is, she takes it forever,” he wrote. “I’m generally a patient person, but I get very anxious when I’m late for something by a specific start date.”
He continued, “The most frustrating thing about this is that she doesn’t seem to have the ability to understand that she’s making people wait. Even if you suggest she’s moving a little faster, she gets really defensive.” “A few years ago, one of her close friends deserted her because she was tired of her chronic lateness.”
Recently, u/Striking_Still_3721 said the husband was at the mall to see a movie, and decided to do some jeans shopping beforehand. However, after telling his wife that the movie would start soon, he said he was asked to “wait”, which prompted him to head to the theater on his own.
“Previews have already started,” he wrote. “I told her again, and she said we could just skip the previews.”
He continued, “At this point, I just walked away… I turned off my phone, and enjoyed the movie myself.” “On my way out of the stage I saw her on a seat in the hall next to herself because I got rid of her.”
Although situations in which one partner intentionally does not respect the other’s time, schedule, and anxiety may require counseling (or in severe cases, separation), chronic delays can sometimes result from general ignorance.
“The most significant manifestation of delay that insults those who are forced to wait is that it is seen as an expression of disdain and disrespect,” MD, Harun Ben-Ziv. Books in Psychology Today.
“However, this is not the only way to explain the lack of punctuality,” Ben-Ziv continued. “People can be inaccurate not because they do not respect a partner or fail to attend to their needs; it can be simply because of mind wandering or an inability to properly estimate time.”
These types of issues can be resolved with a simple conversation, according to Brides.com.
“If you have [significant other] He’s constantly late, and a great first step is letting them know how their actions affect you… By letting your partner know exactly how you’re feeling, they can understand how important an organized schedule is to you,” Brides.com maintains. Whatever your reasons, when you talk openly (and honestly) about how their behavior affects you, your partner may find the incentive to make positive change in the future.”
In response to the viral Reddit post, several Redditors said the original poster tried to communicate his feelings about his wife’s chronic lateness, but was largely ignored.
One commentator wrote, getting more than 5,500 votes in the process: “Initially you were sympathetic to your wife, as a chronically late person.”
They continued, “However, when you describe that her response to her telling you the previews started was to try and wear more jeans, you’ve lost all sympathy.” “This isn’t a chronic delay, it’s a chronic disrespect for other people’s time.”
Redditor u/CrystalQueen3000, whose response got more than 2,200 votes, also said that the behavior of the original poster’s wife was openly disrespectful.
“People who are chronically late and who have no problem destroying other people’s plans because they live alone [self-centered] The scientist has to realize (shockingly) that the world doesn’t actually revolve around them, they “hung”. “I honestly don’t know how I put up with that for so long. That kind of disrespect might drive me bananas.”
Another commenter added, “I told her at least twice that it was time to leave and go to the movie. Her response was that you can miss a part of the movie because she’s busy.” “She is 100 [percent] You know this is a problem if you keep bringing it up and lose friends because of it. She just doesn’t care.”
In the top comment on the viral post, which has nearly 18,000 votes, Redditor u/Overs-mango gave their advice to the original poster.
They started as ‘This is what you have to do to move forward’.
“Tell her you’ll be leaving in 15 minutes and follow along. One warning, then go,” they continued. “Stop discussing and explaining. Start the show.”