A pregnant woman went viral on the internet after revealing that a nurse in her obstetrics and gynecology office described her piercing as “trivial” and told her to consider removing it because she would be a mother.
The anonymous woman, known only as u/HumanPortal, posted about the nurse on the popular Reddit forum “Am I The A** hole” where she received more than 12,300 upvotes and 1,750 comments from users who fired the nurse for being “unprofessional”.
In the post titled “AITA due to a ‘trivial’ hole during pregnancy?” u/HumanPortal explained that she was pregnant with her first child and that her regular medical/gynecologist was on vacation but had a question about her clitoral hood piercing (CHP).
Many obstetricians and gynecologists will recommend that pregnant women avoid having genital, navel, and nipple piercings when pregnant or trying to conceive. This is because, during pregnancy, the pelvic area swells and the abdomen expands which can affect the piercing.
Medical professionals also advise against receiving piercings when pregnant because physical changes during pregnancy and childbirth can cause the piercing to become infected and may also lead to a tear in the area.
When u/HumanPortal arrived at the clinic, a nurse who did not remember having met her before performed the examination. Then, I asked the woman if she could talk to the on-call doctor but the nurse said maybe not because they were running after them.
Then I asked the nurse about the problem and said she would see if u/HumanPortal really needed to talk to the doctor or if she could answer her question.
The woman asked the nurse what she should do about the CHP that she said she had had for over six years. She said the nurse looked at her “quietly” so she explained.
“Then she kind of rolled her eyes and told me she didn’t get an on-demand document asking about it and I’m going to need to know what to do with my body jewelry on my own,” the woman wrote.
u/ HumanPortal said she told the nurse she really wanted to get the doctor’s opinion.
The nurse got on the computer and typed a little before saying she needed to have the piercing removed because “that’s what the clinic protocol says.”
“I asked her if I could put a visor to keep it safe to replace after giving birth and she told me I should take this opportunity to ‘ditch and leave my dirty holes since I became a mother,'” the post read. “I was shocked.”
After telling her friends about the accident, she said most of them were also shocked. But she said one of her friends who is studying to become a nurse said she was “rude” for making the nurse “uncomfortable”.
The friend also said it would be “wrong” to report the nurse because “it is not her job to listen to unsolicited information about ‘stranger things'”.
She also told u/HumanPortal that she violated the nurse’s consent in the conversation which is “something that happens a lot for medical professionals.”
“With that context, I began to wonder if I was an idiot, should I have called the piercer instead,” the post read. “Was I off line to ask her such a personal question and press for an answer when she obviously didn’t agree?”
But quickly, hundreds of users flocked to the comments section, many criticizing the nurse’s reaction and reassuring u/HumanPortal that her question was absolutely correct.
“The nurse works in a gynecologist and obstetrician and she can’t handle a vaginal question???” asked one user. “She seems to rule. NTA”
One user commented “Um. That’s not how any of this works. If you don’t want to hear about body parts, aren’t you in the medical field? NTA.” “Your question was perfectly reasonable. And it’s obscene because it implies that the piercing is somehow ‘unsuitable’ for the mother.”
“That was kind of my idea, as I think it feels like there’s a tacit approval to talk about vaginas to vaginas!” u/HumanPortal Reply to the commenter.
Other users have shared their personal experiences with pregnancy and genital piercing. One user even mentioned that her nurse was very helpful during the piercing removal process.
One user shared “I had the same piercing. I kept it until I was in labour.” “My nurse asked my family in the room to leave to put a catheter in. She told me I would need to have it removed in case of surgery if something went wrong.”
The user said the nurse handed her a container to put the piercing in and helped her remove it because she wasn’t able to. She then re-pierced the day after delivery.
“Submit a complaint or tell your nurse!” User suggested.
NEWSWEEK I reached out to u/HumanPortal for comment but did not receive a response in time to post.