The Internet criticized a man who asked his wife to have an open relationship until she lost weight.
In a viral Reddit post posted on Sunday, some users shared the story on the popular subreddit r/TrueOffMyChest. The post now has over 29,000 upvotes and over 11,000 comments.
Somegiriontheinter wrote: “During COVID-19 and quarantine, I gained some weight and because of that my husband has been very candid to my grandfather’s being very old and unattractive, but today he told me he wanted an open relationship so I did. He lost weight like I used to so he finds me attractive.”
A survey by the American Psychological Association (APA) found that 42 percent of adults in the United States reported an unwanted weight gain since the start of the COVID-19 pandemic, with an average gain of 29 pounds, and up to 10 percent reported an respondents about their weight. Gain more than 50 pounds. Other research in 2021 found that the pandemic led to an increase in overweight children and teens in the United States as well, where 22 percent are now considered obese.
To further clarify, the poster on Reddit said, “I told him I was going to start going to the gym but that didn’t make him change his mind. I saved some money for gym memberships and clothes, so I’m getting ready for that to start but it kind of hurt when he said he wanted Sleeping with other women until I lose some weight, is this normal?
“I realize he doesn’t like my weight gain, but I’m trying to work on it, but I feel it would be nice to have some support from him rather than be with other women so I can be more fit.”
According to a Forbes Health survey in January 2022, 26% of respondents said they felt more negative about their body image than they did before the COVID-19 pandemic, while only 15% said they felt more positive about their body today than they did before the pandemic began.
Redditors responded to the story with shock – overwhelmingly siding with the woman.
One user said, “It’s not normal at all. If he really loves you, he’ll support you on your weight loss journey and won’t put you aside like that.”
Another replied: “Looks like he might already have someone he cares about. This might just be an excuse for him to go after that person and feel justified in a strange cruel way.”
One commenter on the post wrote, “I’m sorry he said these things to you. Your husband should love you no matter what. That’s the whole reason to get married in the first place.”
An APA study found that while women are constantly exposed to messages of weight stigma and pressure to lose weight, they are more likely to lose weight and eat healthier when their romantic partners support their independence.
Another commentator on some of the winter stories said, “My wife is gaining a lot of weight due to several health issues we have been through over the past several years and I can say without hesitation that I love her more and more. You are more sexually attracted to her than ever. Your husband does not suit you.”
In addition to being overweight, the COVID-19 pandemic has negatively affected other parts of our health. The American Psychological Association said adults reported undesirable sleep changes, with 67 percent saying they sleep more or less. Meanwhile, one in four adults reported drinking more alcohol to cope with their stress.
Last week, another man sparked outrage online after telling his wife she had to lose 28 pounds to save their marriage.